Learning to read shouldn’t make you cry
Harrison was a smart little toddler. Before he could speak, I would ask him to locate different countries on a globe, and he found them every time. Most adults couldn’t do that.
He walked at 14 months old, which for babies was on the late side, but we were confident his little friend Matthew wouldn’t have to pull him around in a wagon at college. We knew Harrison would eventually walk on his own, and he did.
Thank goodness, Harrison’s stunning cuteness distracted me from worrying about his physical milestones, speaking as his mother, of course.
My husband and I read to Harrison and his brother every day and provided them with a rich language environment. This is one area where I know my stuff. For credibility purposes and to make my mother happy about college tuition . . . I earned an advanced degree in early childhood and elementary education with an emphasis in reading education. I also worked, as a college student, in the campus Reading Lab and taught people of all ages to read. I knew what I was doing. Math? Not so much, but reading and language, I was in the game to play.
So, you can understand why I just about fell over when Harrison came home from the first grade and asked, “Why did they take me out of class and make me go with the dumb kids?”
Whaaat? He may not have been tactful nor politically correct, but he was telling us what he knew to be true. We discovered Harrison had scored low on a reading test, so the reading specialist, without notifying us, had pulled the low-scoring students out of class so she could work with them. It sounded practical, but Harrison was A) smart enough to know he was being labeled, and B) clearly on track to read, but just wasn’t ready.
The very wise first grade teacher agreed the labeling was more harmful than the tutoring was helpful. All Harrison needed was a bit more time, so she thankfully put a stop to him being removed from her classroom.
Parents don’t often realize; schools want to offer special resources but need qualifying students to receive grant money to pay for them. In other words, the special area teachers need to justify their jobs.
First day of school
In time, Harrison started reading just fine, actually, better than fine. By the third grade, he was winning awards and ranked as one of the top readers in the school. The only time he was ever reprimanded in 12 years of school was for reading a book when he was supposed to be listening to the teacher and again for not tucking his shirt in his pants in high school. What a kid.
Punishing a child for not reading on a school’s schedule, is like spanking all the children who haven’t lost teeth by Christmastime.
Would we place all the 9th grade boys who aren’t yet shaving in a remedial class?
What about grouping all the skinny girls together in the 10th grade and make them attend an after-school tutoring class?
Reading is a natural pattern reached in varying ways on different schedules. Back at the Reading Lab, I taught a 40-year-old man to read. He was finally ready. Brains are as varied as feet, faces, legs and hands.
I was reminded of Harrison’s experience when I recently found a little girl crying because her first grade teacher told her she was “in big trouble” for not being able to read aloud in front of the other children. I spent time with this girl on a weekly basis and knew her to be developmentally on track otherwise, but she didn’t have anyone at home who would read to her. She was learning by herself. Making children uncomfortable about something that isn’t their fault makes them hate school. This is especially true for boys, who often read and speak much later than girls.
Do some students need extra help learning to read? Yes, they do, but I’m not in favor of singling them out in front of the other children. They already know who the red birds and blue birds are. There’s no need to illuminate it every day. The stress and anxiety caused by over-testing and over-analyzing our children is shameful.
Once the basics are learned, novels, comic books, instruction manuals and love letters can be read with ease and joy.
Harrison would tell you the same thing – if he would put the book down long enough to notice you.
I met you wonderful sons in fly fishing school, you did a great job!!
Thank you so much. They told me they met you. I hope you had a wonderful time. They are looking forward to many years of fishing together – glad you were there to witness the beginning!
Particularly true with children that learn differently,such as dyslexic children. All schools should have OG trained teachers.
Yes, there are many times where a special teacher is needed. Fannie Flagg is one of my favorite examples of a dyslexic student who prevailed. I adore her and her story of triumph!
…..so true…..handsome guy!
Thanks so much Kathleen.
I met you wonderful sons in fly fishing school, you did a great job!!
Thank you so much. They told me they met you. I hope you had a wonderful time. They are looking forward to many years of fishing together – glad you were there to witness the beginning!
Particularly true with children that learn differently,such as dyslexic children. All schools should have OG trained teachers.
Yes, there are many times where a special teacher is needed. Fannie Flagg is one of my favorite examples of a dyslexic student who prevailed. I adore her and her story of triumph!
…..so true…..handsome guy!
Thanks so much Kathleen.
School can be such a cruel place, I know Harrison benefited from having such a supportive and involved parental environment. I so sorry about all the {swear word} they are being taught these days…
Yeah . . . what they’re being taught today is a totally different problem that I could spend an entire book on. Yikes. Who would have ever thought? Thanks for the kind words, but I don’t know if I would have been able to do anything without his awesome classroom teacher backing me up. She was a gem.
As a former special education teacher, I believe all students can learn and the basics need to be taught and enriched. It might require teachers to step out of their comfort zones/boxes or even the district’s (or state’s) mandated this is how we are going to do it. Your son was very lucky to have you for a parent. There are many other children who do not have that support at home and tend to be pigeonholed into a category and the parents go along with it because they believe the teacher or school system knows best.
Hi Robin, thank you for this note. I like your attitude of believing in the ability of all students to achieve. I agree that so much of what a child can learn comes from their parents. Bless you for serving these children.
School can be such a cruel place, I know Harrison benefited from having such a supportive and involved parental environment. I so sorry about all the {swear word} they are being taught these days…
Yeah . . . what they’re being taught today is a totally different problem that I could spend an entire book on. Yikes. Who would have ever thought? Thanks for the kind words, but I don’t know if I would have been able to do anything without his awesome classroom teacher backing me up. She was a gem.
As a former special education teacher, I believe all students can learn and the basics need to be taught and enriched. It might require teachers to step out of their comfort zones/boxes or even the district’s (or state’s) mandated this is how we are going to do it. Your son was very lucky to have you for a parent. There are many other children who do not have that support at home and tend to be pigeonholed into a category and the parents go along with it because they believe the teacher or school system knows best.
Hi Robin, thank you for this note. I like your attitude of believing in the ability of all students to achieve. I agree that so much of what a child can learn comes from their parents. Bless you for serving these children.
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